How Can We Learn from Our Patterns?

Many of us have a way of repeating our patterns unconsciously without realizing it. We perpetuate toxic and self-destructive patterns in recurring cycles. Our issues repeat themselves until we’re able to learn from them. Until we realize this, we tend to blame our issues on other people, or we feel victimized by life, powerless to…

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Maintaining Our Independence

When we undertake the recovery process, there are many fears we have to confront and move through in order to come out on the other side of healing. One of our fears is the loss of our independence. We might be worried that asking for help makes us weak and dependent upon other people. We…

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Why is Self-Forgiveness So Important to Our Recovery?

Self-forgiveness can be one of the hardest but most important things we learn in the recovery process. We don’t feel deserving of forgiveness, and we replay memories of our mistakes and regrets constantly as evidence of our unworthiness. It’s almost as if we want to keep reminding and convincing ourselves that we’re bad people. Our…

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Seeing Beyond the Illusions of Our Fears

As we move through the recovery process and learn more about our mental health issues, we start to see that many of our fears are not based on truth but rather on illusion. We are consumed with fear about things we don’t actually need to be afraid of. We feel threatened by things that don’t…

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How Can I Learn to Forgive Myself?

Being unable to forgive ourselves is often a symptom of our shame and our fear of inadequacy. We feel our mistakes, wrongdoings and shortcomings are unforgivable. We feel inadequate and undeserving of love, understanding, kindness and forgiveness. We feel unworthy. We carry our shame with us for years of our lives, often for things that…

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Self-Reflection for Healing

Moving through addiction forces us to look deep within ourselves, to the truth of who we are. It requires that we take time to be alone with our thoughts without the numbing, distracting and self-medicating of addiction. We’re no longer zoned out, escaping and avoiding our pain. We’re forced to face our deepest fears and…

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Millennials: A Stressed Out Generation

Millenials are a demographic of people who were born between 1981-1996. The stress of finding a job and being able to afford a place of their own is different than what previous generations before them went through. By making sure that you eat right, exercise, and use social media to help with career growth, those…

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How to Be a Good A.A. Sponsor

Being a sponsor to someone in Alcoholic Anonymous is about helping someone new to A.A. who needs guidance and encouragement to get them through the program. If you have been in sobriety for more than a year and feel confident that you can impart your wisdom to someone else, you are ready to become a…

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How Does Addiction Change Us?

One of our biggest motivating forces to recover from our addictions is wanting to get back to who we were before addiction took over our lives. We want to rebuild the lives we lost. What are some ways in which addiction changes us? Addiction impacts us mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Mentally we can be…

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Recreating Our Lives

Addiction is so destructive that it can totally transform our lives, sometimes in devastating ways. It changes our relationships, ending some of them altogether. It completely changes our relationship with ourselves, our self-perception, and how we deal with ourselves. When we’re coming out on the other side of addiction, it’s natural to want to recreate…

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