Our patterns of self-sabotage and self-destructiveness are often caused by our fears, our internal feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, self-rejection and self-blame. We hold ourselves back and keep ourselves small because we feel that’s all we deserve. We haven’t yet actualized our potential or seen the value of our worth. To stop our cycles of self-sabotage, we have to recondition our minds to love, respect and accept ourselves. We have to learn how to nurture rather than neglect ourselves, and give ourselves compassion and understanding rather than abusing ourselves.

First, we have to notice how our self-sabotage is appearing in our lives. Are we staying in relationships with partners that control, abuse or disrespect us? Do we feel mistreated by our friends or family? Do we stop ourselves from taking chances? Do we do something to ruin our chances of success, especially at pivotal moments such as when we’re at a crossroads or experiencing breakthroughs? Do you knock yourself down and belittle yourself? Do you criticize and judge yourself?

Understanding our self-sabotage means learning more about the deep-rooted fears stored in our subconscious minds that are fueling our self-destructive patterns. Start taking notice of the ways in which you think and feel about yourself. Monitor your internal dialogue. Chances are it’s consumed with negative and fearful statements. You’re most likely perpetuating all of the limiting beliefs you’ve been conditioned to think are true. Let’s start to change that narrative. Let’s reprogram our subconscious mind to be self-nurturing and self-protective, encouraging and uplifting. The subconscious mind responds to repetition, so try repeating these affirmations or create your own. Remember to use positive statements rather than negative, and to keep them in the present tense.

I deserve the best.

I am more than good enough.

I choose to lift myself up.

I choose to cheer myself on.

I love myself unconditionally.

I accept myself unconditionally.

I respect myself.

I make healthy choices for myself.

I believe in myself.

I have faith in myself.

I am a good person.

I am worthy.

I deserve love and respect.

My mind is self-loving.

My mind is totally healed.

I am always growing, always healing and always making progress.

I can create the life I want for myself.

I have the power to manifest the reality of my dreams.

I am strong.

I am brave.

I am powerful.

I am at peace within myself.

You need love, understanding and support from your treatment program in order to be able to reconnect with yourself. We’re here to help you come back home to yourself again. Call 888-570-7154 for more information.